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Thursday, July 13, 2017

7 Ways to Honor Your Parents as an Adult

Hey People!

I hope everyone is having a good week. It's kindda sorta almost the weekend! I'm so happy it's summertime. You know how much I love the heat....Now, all that's missing is beach and sand :)

Last week, my post Honor Your Parents Live Long discussed just how much God wants us to honor our parents ALL the days of our lives. Now that we know that it's a LOUD commandment with several rewards and punishments attached to it, the next step is to discuss the practical ways to show this "honor".  Although there are circumstances where honoring parents may seem almost impossible (for e.g. they are abusive, they abandoned you, they wounded you, they berate you, they don't like your spouse without good reason, etc.), we are mandated to honor them and as a commandment, we have to comply. As we discussed last week, the Scripture is very clear that the way we treat our parents has significant ramifications, both for our physical life and our spiritual life.

In March, I volunteered to help older people draft and execute their wills and estate planning documents. I met a lovely woman. Let's call her Mrs. S.  She was about 80 years old. We got to talking and she told me she had 5 children and only 3 check on her. Her very first daughter moved out at 21, is now a big company executive, lives 3 hours away and only visits once every 2 years. This daughter did not tell her when she got married and just sent her a postcard with a wedding picture. You could tell how much it hurt Mrs. S just to talk about it, because she felt she had become "below" her daughter. 

As a child of faith, your parents deserve your honor.  When you were young, you depended on your parents to be strong. Now, you're a strong, independent and successful adult, it's time to let them depend on you for strength in their old age. It's time to assure them by your words AND actions, that you will not forsake them and that it is not only your responsibility but your joy to care for them.

When was the last time you thought about the sacrifices your parents made to ensure you have a better life? Your mother may be overbearing but have you thought about how much she gave up just to ensure you had a parent easily accessible? So, how do you think she feels when you move miles away and never call or visit? Your father may appear hardened and difficult to talk to, but have you taken a moment to sit with him and get to really know him and the experiences that shaped his character? 

So, in today's crazy world with 40-hour work weeks that turn into 80 hour drags, here's how to "practically" appreciate your parents in your everyday life.

1.  Pray for them

Getting older can be emotionally- tasking. So, whenever you think about your parents, say a prayer. Ask God to give them strength, good health, longevity and most of all, because this doesn't always come easy, to give you the grace, wisdom, fortitude and provision to "honor" them.

No matter how "terrible" your parents were or are, there's nothing God can't do. No curse God can't break. No relationship God can't fix. No heart God can't change. God knows your parents better than they know themselves. Commit them to God is the first step. He will lead you to Honor.

2.  Spend time with them

Many parents speak the love language of "Quality Time". Nothing makes them happier than to be with you. It may mean taking a weekend just to sit and chat with your mother. NO matter how grown you are, your parents will always picture those times when you were so dependent on them, you couldn't go to the potty alone and while they understand you are now married with kids of your own, sometimes they just want to feel like you still value them. So, make that trip just to chat. If you're in their city for a wedding or a meeting, extend your trip for one more day just to stop by and spend the day with them.

Time with your parents is invaluable even for you because long after they are gone, it is those memories that remain with you.  No matter how much of a big shot you are now, you still have their blood in your veins- a gift from God that you must cultivate.

Oh, and most importantly, when you're with them, be on their own schedule, not yours. Oh, I can tell you endless stories about my mom. She likes to go to events and stay for hours on end. Even though she can drive, she enjoys when my siblings or I drive her to the event and just sit with her.  It makes her happy, so we take turns doing it. 

I'm sure a lot of you can relate to when your mom casually asks you to accompany her to the grocery store. She will promise you it will take five minutes to pick up chicken, but in reality, you will not only leave the store two hours later with 30 bags of groceries, she will need to stop by 3 other stores because the first one did not have the right type of "Okporoko" fish that will make all the difference in the soup she wants to cook.  Sometimes, when I go with my mom on "errands", it's an entire day's business, so I just get ready for it. At the end of the day, that "soup" is lit though :-)

When you can't travel to visit your parents, call just to say hi. If you tend to forget, set it in your weekly calendar the same you would an "important business call". Better still, make it a weekly conference call. Make it a habit, they will start to look forward to your call.  Call, ask how they are doing, how their day went and if there's anything they need. Don't forget to end your call with "I love you."  One of my friends calls his mom unfailingly every Sunday at 6 p.m.  and he says it gives him the good mojo he needs to start his new week.

3. Be generous to them

Parents for my generation are typically between 55 and 70 years old. They are aging and slowing down. Most of them are retired. Some of them are getting ill or passing on. 

So, next time you go to Louis Vuitton and buy a purse just to show off on Instagram, buy your mom one.  Like the Igbos say, "Oburo ma nwa, onye g'enye"...meaning "If not for my child, who will give me?" If they still have a mortgage or credit card debt, and you can afford it, once in a while, take a bill and pay it. 
It means more to spend money on your parents while they are alive, than on their funeral.
If you're blessed and both your parents are still living, and you can afford it, send them on a vacation together. Even if you can't afford it by yourself, if you have siblings, a little contribution from everyone can go a long way. I never had this opportunity because my dad passed when I was 14 years old. Last year, my husband and I had planned to do something similar for his parents. Unfortunately, my father-in-law died suddenly before we could set it in motion. If you can, do it today. Life is short. Enough said.

4. Listen and respect their opinions.

We know you are now alll grown, intelligent and successful. However, remember that before then you were your parents' little boy/girl. In Igboland, there is a saying that an elder can see something ahead while sitting, that YOU cannot see even if you stood on a chair or ladder. They have invaluable wisdom that may not be immediately apparent to you. There's so much to learn from our parents' actions to avoid maintaining a cycle of mistakes. When I am confused, I take it to my mom. Most times, she's faced a similar issue and knows how to best deal with it.  There is a clarity that she gives to every situation that I cannot get anywhere else.

At the same time, sometimes, parents give opinions that make you want to tear your hair out and scream "That is just sooo ridiculous!". When that happens, take a deep breath and nod. Regardless of how much you disagree with their opinions, never be disrespectful in your words, actions, thoughts, or manners towards them. The trick is to say, "Okay, I understand, I'll think about it...thank you so much".

5. Express your appreciation now.

What do you appreciate the most about your parents? When last did you express that to them? For me, I appreciate that my mom is such a strong woman. I appreciate that she showed me that it is possible to be cutthroat successful in your career and still be a loving wife/mother. Because of her, I know I do not have to choose between my career and having a family. I can actually balance my life. And whenever I get a chance, I tell her the value she has brought and continues to bring to my life. Just last week, I mailed her a handwritten letter and she said it made her day :-) 

For my dad, he was such a hardworking loving man who believed that being good to people was more important than money or flash. No matter how wealthy he was, he was never proud or arrogant. I wish I could tell him that in person today. 

We all know people who put up "Best mom in the world" Instagram posts (that their parents probably never see) but never actually call their parents or do anything else to honor them.  If your parents are still alive, take a step beyond that, call or write to say what you admire about them and how much you appreciate that you have them to call mom or dad or how much you appreciate all their hard work and love.

6. Forgive them

There is no such thing as a perfect parent. It is often joked about every African parent tells their child they graduated top of their class. The question now becomes, if everyone graduated top of their class, who came 2nd, 3rd or last in the class??? It cracks me up everytime because this is not only a joke, it is reality. Parents want to look perfect to their children and sometimes this makes them prideful to ever admit their mistakes. The reality is they are imperfect, just like us.

They may have said hurtful things, had unrealistic expectations of you, or done things that left you damaged. Regardless of what your parent's sins are....forgive. It saves you from retaining anger and bitterness in your life. While I understand this is easier said than done, I urge you at least to take the first step towards forgiveness - ask God for His help.

Forgiveness is defined by Merriam Webster as, " to give up resentment of or claim to requital or to cease to feel resentment against (an offender)"

I also have to add that if your situation is such that your parents keep on hurting you, I am not asking you to forgive and leave us vulnerable to continuous hurt. Forgive because if you're a believer, you know forgiveness only comes from God.

7. Stop complaining about them.

Lastly, stop complaining to everyone who cares to listen just how ridiculous your parents were to you or how much of your time they are taking. Sometimes, our parents due to illness or life circumstances beyond their control, will need to depend on us more than they wish to. Majority of the time, if it was up to them, they don't want to be a burden to you. Be kind. Be selfless. and do it with a smile on your face.

Ultimately, our parents want to know we are in their corner....that we care enough to humor them sometimes, to laugh at their jokes when it's not funny, to spend a Sunday with them even if we'd rather be watching Netflix or to accompany them to their old friend's daughter's wedding when we will rather be with our friends. 

Do it for love. Do it for God's glory. Do it to live long. Most of all, do it because these humans "birthed" you. 

Thank you for reading, but what are you still doing here? Call your parent(s) now!

Stay Inspired.....
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Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Bible Speaks: Honor Your Parents....Live Long

Hey Everyone,

Hope you had a blessed 4th of July! I spent most of mine in bed binging of TV shows...I know I owe you an updated list of TV show recommendations. I promise it's coming soon :-)

Yesterday, I took a break from Netflix and Hulu to make a quick trip to the outlet mall. I needed to exchange a pair of jeans I bought for my mom for a better size.  As is expected on 4th of July weekend, it was sooo crowded.  I was just focused on accomplishing my exchange mission, and controlling my eyes and urge to shop for myself. I had just passed a rack of shoes when I noticed am older lady sitting on the bench struggling to try on a pair of loafers. She had to be at least 70 years old and was moving very slowly.  A few shoe racks from her was a young lady - seemed to be in her mid-twenties. The young lady quickly tried on a pair of stilettos, dumped it in her shopping bag, and picked up her phone. While scrolling through what seemed to be snapchat, she paused and took a selfie. My eyes then diverted back to the older lady. She was struggling to stand up and walk in the shoes to test it out. She subtly smiled and seemed happy with the shoes. Just then, the young lady turned to her, rolled her eyes, and in what sounded more like a grunt than words said, "hurry up Mom! urghhh!" She then turned and heading towards the counter in frustration, yelled, "We need to go! You're always slowing me down. Next time I come here, it'll be by myself!!" The old lady's smile disappeared. She sighed, put the shoes down and slowly followed behind her daughter, leaving the shoe behind and probably any and all excitement that came with trying those shoes on.

It really saddens me to see adults maltreat, misspeak or ignore their parents.  Our parents are not perfect. They are only human.  At one point or the other, they may have failed us, hurt us, abandoned us, or simply not lived up to the expectations we have of them, but then they are still and will always be the persons God entrusted us to.

Honoring your parents is so important to God, and we know this because the Bible does not only command it, it is filled with promises of bountiful rewards.

So, as a Christian, let's just say for whatever reason you don't feel like your parents deserve your honor or respect, despite the fact that your mother carried you for nine months and went through labor, OR that your father worked two jobs just to pay your school fees, OR that your parents put your need for school supplies above their own need to go on vacation, do IT because it is the Fifth commandment from God.

Next time your phone rings and it's your mom/dad and they are interrupting your night out with your friends or your binge of Game of Thrones, think about these verses and be reminded that your faith requires you to love, honor and obey your parents.
Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.                   ~ Exodus 20:12
Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.   ~  Colossians 3:20
Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.       ~    Hebrews 13:7 
If one curses his father or his mother, his lamp will be put out in utter darkness.                ~   Proverbs 20: 20
Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”       ~ Ephesians 6: 2-3
Hear, my son, your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching.                ~ Proverbs 1:8
    Cursed is anyone who dishonors their father or mother. ~ Deuteronomy 5:16
Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.        ~     Deuteronomy 5:16
Every one of you shall revere his mother and his father, and you shall keep my Sabbaths: I am the Lord your God.        ~    Leviticus 19:3
The Bible also discusses the brutal consequences of cursing one's parents in Exodus 21:17 and Proverbs 30:17. Also, in various places, Jesus describes disobedience to parents as a character trait unbecoming of a true Christian, similar to backbiting, hating God and boasting. Don't take my word for it- check out 2 Timothy 2-3 and Romans 1:30.

I hope these Bible verses inspire you today to love, value and appreciate the channel through which God gave you life. Remember, they won't be here forever.

Next week, let's talk about the practical side- HOW we can honor our parents on the daily.
Stay Inspired.....
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Tuesday, May 23, 2017

21 Things I Wish I Knew at 21- Part 2

Happy New Week!

In continuation of my May 9th post on 21 Things I Wish I Knew at 21, and as promised, here's Part 2. 
Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow,. The most important thing is not to stop questioning. - Albert Einstein

12. Travel, if you can afford it.  This is the time to do it- before you have kids, before career commitments and before marriage. With age, comes responsibilities and limited vacation time. 2011 was my self-declared traveling year. I visited 4 countries and it is still one of the most memorable years of my life.

13. GET A MENTOR. In fact, get two- one in your career and one who you admire personally.  Actually, get as many as you want. Reach out to someone you look up to,  more likely than not, s/he will be honored.  I have about 5 mentors and I still have "mentor openings". For me, my criteria is to find someone who "seems" to be where I want to be, then I connect with them and find out "how" they got to where they are. Remember, you have to humble to learn.

14. Network- Make good impressionsIt IS a small world. 

Two months ago, I attended a Continuing Legal Education seminar for lawyers in my area. I was fortunate enough to sit beside a lovely lady. When we took a break for lunch, I introduced myself and we got to talking. It turns out she was a lawyer looking to quit her job and start her own law firm, a move I had made just three months prior. This got us to talking some more. We exchanged business cards. She later contacted me to set up a time to get together. She had plenty questions about how I overcame the fear of abandoning a steady handsome paycheck to dive into the unknown. Our meet-up was awesome, to say the least. We had an honest conversations and she left feeling inspired. We kept in touch and soon, she indeed made the leap. While she was getting her firm set up, she got a lead in a practice area I knew more about and sent the client to me. That client is one of my highest paying clients till date. Just yesterday, I found out she was neighbors with one of my very good friends and that they had each talked about me to each other on several occasions and did not know they were talking about the same person till my friend posted a picture of me on her Instagram.  What a small world!

15. Guard your reputation- it's an investment account that you only returns what you deposit.   Simply put, in metaphoric terms, it is better to be "reserved" than to be known as the community "whore". See Number 6. 

16.  When it comes to "hanging out", trust your instinct. Do not do anything just to fit in. A few years ago, I mentored the female youths (aged 14-19) in my church. After one of our meetings, one of my mentees came up to me and asked if she could pick my brain. She told me this colorful story about a recent fight she had with her friend. Her friend accused of her of being boring and uptight, simply because she didn't want to accompany her to hang out with two boys to a beach picnic. I asked why she did not want to go, she said she did not trust the boys and that it was a secluded area. I told her to stick to her grounds, but just accept it might cost her friendship. Two weeks later, she thanked me for my advise. Apparently, her "friend" went on the trip with another friend and they both got raped. 

17. Face your demons. Own your life experiences and how they have made you who you are.  You are only human. There IS nothing wrong with YOU.  Stop looking back. Move forward.

18. In life, everyone has a different question paper. Stop trying to copy others. Create your own path.

19. Do NOT believe the hype. No one's relationship is perfect. People who make an effort to continually boast about how their relationships or marriages are perfect only do so to hide the truth. 

20. Let go. Let God. The only person grudges imprison is you

21.  Don't chase after people who don't want to stay. Any person who makes you work extra hard just to stay close to them, does not deserve you.  Your time and emotions are better spent loving those who love you, instead of worrying about those who don't.

Stay Inspired.....
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Tuesday, May 16, 2017

#LegendsNeverQuit! #LegendsKeepFighting

Success is defined as "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose."

Thanks to the #LegendsNeverQuitCampaign, here's a snippet into the "rags-to-riches" story of 11 successful celebrities. My favorite? Mark Wahlberg! :-) These images speak for themselves, loud and clear.  Hope they are a source of inspiration for you today!

Just incase you're struggling today to meet up with your story....just remember...
"Your incredible brain can take you from rags to riches, from loneliness to popularity, and from depression to happiness and joy - if you use it properly." - Brian Tracy 

Like MLK once said, "Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” 

Take that one step in the right direction today!

Stay the Course!

Stay Inspired.....
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Tuesday, May 9, 2017

21 Things I Wish I Knew at 21 - Part 1

I wish I started making lesson lists earlier. Before life taught me lessons that forcibly whipped me into an understanding that self-reflection is the fastest way to grow...The older I get, the more I realize that life is an unending lesson. Sometimes, I wish I could crawl back into the studded shelter with pink roses my parents let me live in for years, unaware of the tornado that life has to offer. The things I know now,  I wish I knew at 18 or at 21 or maybe, yesterday.  Maybe I would have saved myself some heartbreak...But then again, I can't have any regrets. Because my experiences, the good, the bad and the ugly, are part of my journey.... And tomorrow, I will wish I knew what I know then, today.

The best any of us can do is to learn as much as we can, when we can. And keep on growing... In putting together this list, I looked back on the years since I turned 21 and put together the happenstances n my life and each lesson it taught me. I also conducted a small poll from young ladies aged 29 to 35...this list does not only reflect lessons we all wish we knew at 21, but ones which continue to be valuable in our lives everyday and will continue to be even at age 55.

This blog will be in two parts. Here are the first 11 :-)

1.  Fear God. Let God matter to you, personally. Don't just attend church but seek to know God for yourself.  Allow His word guide your feet in your daily dealings, and you will see a change in your path.  Actually take the time to read the Bible your parents bought for you. You can also sign up for the Bible app and get daily verses.  The Bible is unmatchable wisdom and you will find that the word will get you through life's toughest seasons.
Joshua 1: 8-9

2.   You ARE the average of the people you surround yourself with. Choose friends who enrich your life and purpose. "Proverbs 1: 10: "My Child, sinners will try to lead you into sin, but do not follow them."

3. Be serious with your education.  Education is fundamental. Even if you don't want to be a professional, there are so many life and common sense skills that education gives. Relish it.  Allow the educational experience to pass through you. Enjoy it. Make the best of it. IT is YOUR means to change the world.  Take Mandela's word for it.
4.  Stop being so fascinated with the popular ones. The geeks (like Mark Zuckerberg) win in the long run. For real, ask someone who is at least 30 years old, "how many of the "popular kids" win your class ended up being CEOs or world leaders?" The answer will be the same: very very few. 

5. Treat people well. The person you took for granted yesterday may become your lifeline tomorrow. This is a principle my parents take so seriously, my middle name reflects it. Integrity is wealth. 

6. Be careful of social media. Everything you put online is permanent. Really. AND remember there is social media, and then, there's reality...two separate things. Take everything you see on social media with a grain of salt. People only show you what they want you to see. No one's life is that perfect, but you know this already. So don't let anyone's appearance of perfection cause you to count your failures. 

7. Respect and listen to your parents.  This does not mean you have to do everything they say, but at least give it value. Because there will come a time, you wish you had them to counsel you. Most of the time, they are right. The Bible mentions it twice:  Proverbs 1: 8-9 and Proverbs 6: 20-23.  

In fact, there's a promise attached to it- LONG LIFE.
8. Stay Close your family. Friends come and friends go. No matter how far you run, you will realize family is always home, and there's no place like home. Form and maintain bond between you and your siblings. They are your first friends, and most likely, against all odds, will be the last ones standing. 
9. Do not settle. That boyfriend that puts you down and makes you believe he's the best you can ever get, is NOT as good as it gets. YOU deserve better.

10. Don't play "wife" to a man who is not your husband. YOU know what I mean. So, enough said.

11. Get to know yourself. Find out what you like and what you dislike. Pay attention to your feelings. What makes you happy? What can't you tolerate? In what areas do you feel most accomplished? Knowing the answers to these questions is the gateway to figuring out a lot of aspects and making important decisions in your life- your career, your spouse, your friendships, etc.  It is only in recognizing your strengths and flaws can you flourish AND grow!

Stay Inspired.....
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Monday, March 27, 2017

Women Who Inspire: Omy's Strength

I was a teenager when Omy's husband Kelechi died 13 years ago. Omy's family and mine were very close growing up, and still are; we often refer to each other as "cousins". I remember hearing the  sad news of Kelechi's passing and thinking to myself, "How terrible, may God comfort Omy and her girls." I even remember visiting Omy to extend our condolences.

Over the years, whenever I see Omy and her girls, it's all happiness and love...and chitchat. But you know, it took a little more growing up for me to fully comprehend what happened to Omy in 2004. Even now, despite the comprehension, I flinch when I think about how much her life must have changed in an that one day went from one with a smooth-sailing ship filled with dreams and plans, to a fleeting power boat.....It must have been an alarmingly painful experience for a "barely-married" 26 year-old mother of two. 

God sure has a mysterious way of navigating our journeys and filling the gaps in our lives with His grace and purpose. He uses our pain to not only build solid foundations in our lives, but to serve as living testimony of His presence. A once sheltered 26 year old widow is now not just a successful mother of two beautiful young ladies, but a breathing inspiration. When I think of Omy now, I am amazed at the  caliber of woman she is....and how she turned her horrific episode into a powerful inspirational journey. 

I could tell you a lot more about Omy...but don't take my word for it. Here's Omy's dedication to Kelechi last week, on the 13th anniversary of his death.
"Exactly 13 years ago today my husband and the father of my two angels went to be with the Lord. Two people died on that day, Dr Kelechi Egesie Wokemba and the young carefree girl that used to be me. The 'strong' woman you know today was birthed that day. She was not given a choice or time to prepare. With just a moment's notice this role was foisted upon her. When the grieving father of your husband's staff who died in the same accident with him is sitting across from you asking what your plans are for his daughter's corpse and funeral, you have to grow up on the spot.   
Up until that point, I had lived my life in the clouds. My biggest problem at that point was probably where to do my Masters degree and whether or not the children would come with me. But here I was, one month to my 27th birthday, suddenly solely responsible for two little humans and series of decisions on sensitive issues that continue to present themselves till date. I needed a plan. It took me all of 24 hours to come up with a strategy for this journey. My strategy had just two components: 1. Make Kelechi proud. 2. Don't let the devil take any glory in this. I think it has worked.  

The first picture was taken at the funeral on the 31st of March 2004. The second was taken the next day or so. We had actually strolled out to his uncle's place. The third was taken 5 days after the funeral on the day we got back to Enugu from the village. Maybe it was the joy of the Lord or maybe I was just so happy to be back from the village but that smile you see in that picture was for real and to the glory of God, it has never really left. If you knew me back then, you would know that it can only be Lord's doing.  
I am an ajebota. I am not being haughty or anything like that. I was 'jeborized' from my mother's womb. From my father's house to my husband's house it was smooth sailing. Nothing in my past prepared me for a life of stress. People who knew me before the incident had already concluded that they would probably be burying me in a short while because they didn't see how I would bear it or handle the pressures that come with the territory. But alas, here we are 13 years later.  
You see, God uses the foolish things of this world to confound the wise. He loves to take rejected stones and turn them into cornerstones. He doesn't like to be predictable and He does things in such a way that no matter how you analyze it, the glory comes back to him. That is what He did with me. His grace came upon me instantly and the person who was most surprised at the transformation was me.  
If you're facing any difficult thing in your life today, look at me and find strength. You are strong, you just don't know it. No one thought I could do it. I doubted myself many times. Often I would look at my girls and feel sorry for them. I wondered whether I would be able to give them the kind of life and upbringing their dad and I had planned. The two year old in the picture is now the head girl of her school. Not too bad if i may say so myself, so take courage and take charge. If 'Omy daddy' could do it, so can you.  
I remember Kelechi today with fondness. May his sweet soul continue to rest and may those of us left behind find grace to daily keep the flag flying."
 We often look for heroes in movies, books and celebrities. However, they don't live in fiction; they live amidst us. Omy, you beautiful in and true epitome of virtue...a stellar woman of strength and perseverance. I am inspired by your grace even in the face of tragedy.  Your beautiful girls are lucky to have you to call Mom. May God continue to smoothen your journey. May the meditations of your heart come alive in the quality of your life.

If my ship sails from sight, it doesn't mean my journey ends, it simply means the river bends. ~ Enoch Powell
Keep on sailing, nwanne.

 Stay Inspired.....
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Monday, March 20, 2017

Powerful Testimony: Frank Edwards

Happy First Day of Spring!! 

Here's an oldie but goodie from Frank Edwards. I fell in love with Frank from the first day I heard "Mma Mma". I even blogged about my awe of his music in 2012. In fact, I made sure at least 3 of Frank's songs were played at my wedding ceremony. More than his music, I am just inspired by his success story! Take a listen, I hope you are too!

"Don't let your background put your back on the ground."
I hope this inspires you to keep on working! God's got you! Have a blessed week!

 Stay Inspired.....
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Sunday, February 26, 2017

Red Carpet Fashion + Complete List of Winners: 2017 Academy Awards (The Oscars)

Check out the red carpet and full list of winners from the 89th Annual Academy Awards which held today at the Hollywood & Highland Center in Hollywood, California.

Special congratulations to Mahershala Ali on his big win. I fell in love with his acting when I saw him on Luke Cage. Well deserved! And of course to Viola Davis! Your speech was truly inspiring!

Ryan Gosling
John Legend and Chrissy Teigen
Mahershala Ali
Ruth Negga in Valentino
Emma Stone in Givenchy
Taraji P. Henson in Alberta Ferretti
Jessica Biel in KaufmanFranco
Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel
Naomie Harris in Calvin Klein

Chrissy Teigen
Aldis Hodge 
Viola Davis in Armani
Cynthia Erivo
Brie Larson in Oscar de la Renta
Emma Roberts
Janelle Monae in Elie Saab
Robin Roberts
Nicole Kidman in Armani PrivĂ©
Ava DuVernay
Pharrell Williams
Andrew Garfield 
Riz Ahmed
Luciana Barroso and Matt Damon 
Nancy O'Dell
Sofia Carson
Priyanka Chopra
Halle Berry
Jessica and David Oyelowo

Hailee Steinfield
Jackie Chan
Kirsten Durst
Octavia Spencer

Salma Hayek
Denzel and Pauletta Washington
Trudie Tyler and Sting
Scarlett Johansson
Dwayne Johnson and Lauren Hashian
Laura Dern
Karlie Kloss
Michael Strahan
Darby Stanchfield
Kyla Weber and Vince Vaughn 
Auli'i Cravalho
Ryan Seacrest
Terrence Howard

Full List of Winners

Best Supporting ActorMahershala Ali, MoonlightJeff Bridges, Hell or High WaterDev Patel, LionLucas Hedges, Manchester by the SeaMichael Shannon, Nocturnal Animals
Best Makeup and HairstylingStar Trek Beyond
A Man Called Ove
Suicide Squad
Best Costume DesignFlorence Foster Jenkins
La La Land
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them
Best Documentary FeatureO.J.: Made in America
Fire at Sea
I Am Not Your Negro
Life, Animated
Best Sound EditingHacksaw Ridge
Deepwater Horizon
La La Land
Best Sound MixingRogue One: A Star Wars Story
Hacksaw Ridge
La La Land
13 Hours: The Secret Soldiers of Benghazi
Best Supporting ActressViola Davis, Fences Michelle Williams, Manchester by the Sea Naomie Harris, Moonlight Nicole Kidman, Lion Octavia Spencer, Hidden Figures
Best Foreign Language FilmToni Erdmann
The Salesman
Land of Mine
A Man Called Ove
Best Animated ShortPiper
Borrowed Time
Blind Vaysha
Pear Cider and Cigarettes
Best Animated FeatureZootopia
Kubo and the Two Strings
The Red Turtle
My Life As a Zucchini
Best Production DesignLa La Land
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them
Hail, Caesar!
Best Visual EffectsThe Jungle Book
Rogue One: A Star Wars Story
Kubo and the Two Strings
Doctor Strange
Deepwater Horizon
Best Film EditingLa La Land
Hacksaw Ridge
Hell or High Water
Best Documentary, Short SubjectJoe’s Violin
The White Helmets
Watani: My Homeland
4.1 Miles
Best Short Film, Live ActionTimecode
Silent Nights
La Femme et le TGV
Ennemis Interieurs
Best CinematographyLa La Land
Best Original ScoreLa La Land
Best Original Song“City of Stars,” La La Land “Audition (The Fools Who Dream),” La La Land“How Far I’ll Go,” Moana“Can’t Stop the Feeling,” Trolls“The Empty Chair,” Jim: The James Foley Story
Best Original ScreenplayManchester by the Sea
La La Land
Hell or High Water
The Lobster
20th Century Women
Best Adapted ScreenplayMoonlight
Hidden Figures
Best DirectorDamien Chazelle, La La Land Barry Jenkins, Moonlight Kenneth Lonergan, Manchester by the Sea Denis Villeneuve, ArrivalMel Gibson, Hacksaw Ridge
Best ActorCasey Affleck, Manchester by the Sea Denzel Washington, Fences Ryan Gosling, La La LandAndrew Garfield, Hacksaw Ridge Viggo Mortensen, Captain Fantastic
Best ActressEmma Stone, La La LandNatalie Portman, Jackie Meryl Streep, Florence Foster JenkinsIsabelle Huppert, ElleRuth Negga, Loving
Best PictureArrival
Hacksaw Ridge
Hell or High Water
Hidden Figures
La La Land
Manchester by the Sea 
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