Your Value is Your Realization

Hey everyone, I hope your week has been productive thus far. Mine has NOT! I’m still slowly crawling out of jetlag….This is the downside of taking a whole month for vacation. My body is back to reality but my mind seems to still be on vacation **yawn**. I’ve given my mind till Sunday to come back or else, I’m disowning it and buying a new one. Ha! I kid I kid :-)

So! Here’s the thesis of my post today, “Knowing your value breeds success in life.” 

We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light. ~Mary Dunbar

Self-value is not rooted in beauty, professional achievement or in an ability to familiarize with people whom you consider more “valuable” than yourself.  Self-worth will not be found in the mirror or on your resume. If you doubt me, please explain to me why perfectly beautiful and intelligent women stay in abusive or unfaithful relationships? 
**Crickets** Exactly! Self-worth can only be found within….

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies, if you don’t know your worth, how do you expect any man to? A common exemplary scenario is when us women play the “waiting” game.  How long will you “date” a man before he is willing to commit to being your “boyfriend”? What we sometimes fail to realize is just how fragile the term “boyfriend” really is. I mean, it could be broken with simple words “Its over”, “I’m done”, “I don’t think this is working out”, etc. If you wait this long for him to commit to being your boyfriend, how much longer do you think you’ll wait for him to make you his fiancé? Then, how long do you think you’ll need to wait for him to set a wedding date? 


If you start waiting at such an early stage, you will continue to do so.  If he won’t make such a light commitment, then how do you expect him to make heavier ones? Don’t let anyone tell you any different…if a man doesn’t want to keep you, sleeping with him, cooking for him and “silently hoping” for an epiphany will not get you your fairytale. #JustSaying

You will be only be used as long as you let yourself be used. Human beings are flawed, that’s why they are human beings. No matter how much you think a person “cares” for you, if they know your value but realize you are oblivious to it, they most likely would not be the one to make you aware of it, as long as they benefit from it. So when people successfully “use” you, don’t blame them, blame yourself.

YOU should be YOUR #1 fan. Consider yourself your own lawyer…advocate your case all through life….Believe your beautiful. Believe you’re smart. Believe you’re capable. Believe your worthy. Most importantly, believe this- there can never be another YOU.  If you truly believe that, it’s the one thing no one can take away from you.

Trust yourself. Think for yourself. Act for yourself. Speak for yourself. Be yourself. Imitation is suicide. ~Marva Collins

“Whoever you are, there is some younger person who thinks you are perfect. There is some work that will never be done if you don't do it. There is someone who would miss you if you were gone. There is a place that you alone can fill. ~Jacob M. Braude

Besides, when you believe those things about yourself, humbly ofcourse, it will be apparent in the way you carry yourself, the way you talk and eventually in the way people see you. Believe it or not, your confidence in yourself is what inspires others’ confidence in you. People will treat you how you treat yourself. Its simple logic: if you think you are a loser, you will carry yourself like a loser and people will see that and treat you like a loser.

"The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others." ~Dr Sonya Friedman

It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to. ~W.C. Fields

Remember, the only person who is absolutely required to love you unconditionally is you. I ask again, If you cant do that job, why should anyone else?

Accept everything about yourself - I mean everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end - no apologies, no regrets. 
~Clark Moustakas

So, its 2012, make “self-worth” priority in your life. Learn to love and appreciate yourself and what you can offer to those who love you. Trust me, from it success in life and relationships flows. Self worth breeds more self worth. Your belief in your value is your motivation to  to take bold steps and to take risks in pursuit of your goals in life, the achievement of which will further boost your self worth. Get it? :-)

The strongest single factor in acquiring abundance is self-esteem: believing you can do it, believing you deserve it, believing you will get it. ~ Jerry Gillies

All that you need is deep within you waiting to unfold and reveal itself. All you have to do is be still and take time to seek for what is within and you will surely find it. ~Eileen Caddy

I must say knowing your self-worth does not mean being arrogant. Here’s the difference…knowing self-worth requires quiet confidence in your value and involves seeking happiness from things that make you special. On the other hand, arrogance is loud confidence and is a result of finding happiness in the flaws of others. See the difference? 

With that said, I leave you with one of my favorite poems. Its written by Dan Coppersmith and is excerpted from a book called The Elusive Here & Now

Only You

No one on Earth


Exists quite like you


And no one is able


To do what you do

The person you are


The talents you bear


Gifts that only


You can share

Only you have learned


From the things you’ve done


Gaining perspective


From the battles you’ve won

Times when you’ve lost


Have been priceless too


The lessons contribute


To what makes you you

The rest of the world


Can’t see through your eyes


Which is why your insight


Is such a prize

Because you are you


There are lives you affect


Much more than you


Would ever expect

The things you do


The things you say


Send ripples throughout


The Milky Way

You’re unique, amazing


Like no one else


You have the exclusive


On being yourself.

Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one. ~Eleanor Roosevelt

Stay Inspired....and pray for me as I seek to bring my mind back from vacation, where it is currently lounging in pajamas not wanting to do anything productive :-)