I came across this article by Christina Arylo in the Huffington Post today and thought to share. Its discusses marriage and divorce but I'm sharing it here because it definitely applies to relationships as well, especially long-term ones. I find the article very insightful and I couldn't have written it better. Point blank- Not all break ups have to be filled with drama and bitterness. Unfortunately, this doesn't seem to be common knowledge. The norm today seems to be to drag every relationship on till it becomes literally impossible to let go without absolutely hating the person with the same passion with which you once loved them.
Arylo preaches this (and I totally agree)-Except in fairytales, sometimes love alone isn't enough. Just because you love someone doesn't mean the relationship HAS to work. When its not meant to be, it won't be. If your relationship is not working, leave before resentment turns into bitterness, before bitterness turns into rage, and before rage turns into long-term unhappiness. If your relationship is hurting you now, leave before the hurt becomes a part of you.
Don't get me wrong, I LOVE love. Its an incredible feeling :-) And...Love is an extremely important ingredient in any relationship/marriage....it is the oil in the wheel of any relationship...makes it progress smoother...However, standing alone it is insufficient to make it work in the long-term. Ask any successfully married couple, they will tell you about a period during which they lost love for their partner...they will tell you it was "other things" (such as commitment, respect, friendship, counseling, mutual goals, etc) that kept them together when the love faded.
DISCLAIMER! I must say that I am in no way advocating divorce. For me, this article resonates "truer" more or less when it comes to relationships. Marriage is wayy more complicated and I have not experienced it so I cannot preach on it. :-)
Having said that, here's the article (copied and pasted)....with full credit to The Huffington Post. As you read, consider it not only in terms of marriage, but more so, in relationships.